Relationship Advice about Attraction
Chemistry. Attraction. Feeling comfortable with someone you have just met. Believing someone is your soul mate. Or, saying to another person you have only been with a short time, “it seems as if we have been together for years.” What is going on here? Why are some people attracted to others instantaneously while they are repelled or rejected by others? There are a number of reasons and clues to this unique behavior.
The concept of resonance. Each of us sends out non-verbal signals that are a reflection of our inner desires, attitudes, feelings and consciousness. When we meet someone who has similar internal feelings, attitudes etc. we are attracted to them. For example positive people like to be around other positive people. They don’t like to be around whiners. They don’t resonate. Just look at the people who you like to be around. I’ll bet you have similar beliefs, goals, philosophy, background; something, but the list of potential issues is too long for this short overview.
Each of us has an unconscious picture of our ideal mate. That picture can originate from our early childhood and the messages sent to us by our caregivers, later maturity and the result of life experience or just downright fantasies that we conjure up as we move through life.
And finally our unconscious desire to find someone who will help us heal from our childhood wounds. We are attracted to someone who reminds us of one of our parents both their weaknesses and strengths. Take a serious look at a person you are in a relationship with now.
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I know exactly what you are saying! I feel as if I’m marrying my mother with my current girlfriend now! But i love her none the less. it’s hard to let go… Fara
Comment by Faramir — April 14, 2008 @ 12:17 am
All the relationships depends on the attraction it may be internal attraction or may external attraction.
Comment by Aneeta Negi — May 9, 2008 @ 5:42 am