November 20, 2007

Everyone is doing the best they can at any given moment given their awareness, skills, experience and knowledge. If this is true why does people’s behavior sometimes affect us the way it does? There are a number of reasons:

1. We have expectations of them.
2. We have our own “stuff” that we are dealing with.
3. We have more or less of a history with the person.
4. We have an erroneous definition of faults.
5. We are masters at projection and mirroring.
6. We don’t take the responsibility for our contribution to the problem or issue.

If there is an inconsistency between a persons behavior and their words, the behavior will always be a more accurate reflection of where they are in consciousness than the words they use. The reason for this is that words are a conscious act and behavior is generally an unconscious act. Note I said generally. Many people consciously behave in certain ways because they are trying to send a message to the other person. They may say, “I love you” for example, but their behavior or actions are totally contradictory to the words they are choosing to use…….

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